The difference that makes the difference

The little things…

How is it that some people can be exceptionally effective in their field while others seem to struggle every day just to get ordinary results?

Have you ever wondered about this? If your answer is yes, you are in for a treat.

Becoming exceptionally effective is what it is all about. Every day, most of us strive to fulfil our potential and become the best we can be and there are ways to create leverage to do this.

Here’s a powerful article that I particularly enjoyed from Chris Collingwood, MD, at INSPIRITIVE on the differences that make the difference and how you can learn to copy them.

What is Modelling? The Heart of NLP, by Chris Collingwood

Our experiences comprise various elements: patterns of behaviour, patterns of states, patterns of thinking, and the frames (beliefs or assumptions) within which those patterns occur. Differences in the quality of experiences are the direct result of differences in how these elements are organised.

That is, your behaviour, what you are feeling, what you are thinking, the frames you are using, and the interactions of all these elements with each other combine to give rise to your experience at a given moment in time.

How you represent that array of content and the relationships between its elements constitutes the pattern of organisation (or structure) of the experience.

“Within these structures we find the differences that distinguish someone who is adept at a skill set from someone who is not”.

In modelling, we are “mapping” out the underlying patterns of organisation of experience that make it possible for an exemplar to manifest his or her particular ability.,

“If we organise our experience to match that of the exemplar, that pattern of organisation will enable us to manifest a similar level of ability”.

Modelling, then, is the process of creating useful “maps” (descriptions of the patterns of organisation of experience) of human abilities. Such maps are useful because they provide the frames to enable us to replicate the experiential structure that makes it possible for a person to manifest a particular ability. When we make that map our own, we can have the necessary experience naturally and on demand.

Modelling is a doorway into the vast storehouse of human experience and abilities, providing access to anyone willing to turn the key. , For the individual who pursues modelling, this enables:

Access to an ever-widening range of new experiences and abilities.
An increasing ability to bring those same experiences and abilities to others
A finer understanding of the patterns of organisation underlying unwanted experiences and behaviours so that you know precisely what to change in those experiences and behaviours.
Ever-increasing flexibility in your experience and responses.
A growing appreciation of the beauty to be found in the patterns of human experience and appreciating the “patterns that connect”. (Bateson)

Your turn

Can you start thinking of ways to put this into use now? How can having this ability take your life to the next level?

Now it’s your turn!, take your next step towards Exceptional Effectiveness. You now have a new way in which to assess your behaviour and create more options.,

Remember this is practical advice not just another theory, so do go out and try it, and, let me know how you went.

Edited by Jules Collingwood NLP Trainer at INSPIRITIVE

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